The Washington Post writes of Brigitte Adams, a vocal and influential feminist who encouraged women to put off raising a family and focus on their careers instead. Her slogan was the catchy “Freeze your eggs, Free your career.” Several years later, Brigitte has found herself a victim of her own advice.
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Her story was one of empowerment, how a new fertility procedure was giving women more choices in pursuit of the holy grail "to have it all.” Her plan was to work a few more years, find a great guy to marry and still have a house full of her own children. Things didn’t turn out the way she hoped. In early 2017, with her 45th birthday looming and no sign of Mr. Right, she decided to start a family on her own. She excitedly unfroze the 11 eggs she had stored and selected a sperm donor. But for a variety of reasons all of the eggs failed and her chances of carrying her genetic child had just dropped to near zero. She remembers screaming like “a wild animal,” throwing books, papers, her laptop — and collapsing to the ground. “It was one of the worst days of my life. There were so many emotions. I was sad. I was angry. I was ashamed,” she said. “I questioned, ‘Why me?’ ‘What did I do wrong?’ ”
Well lady I can be of help here. In fact you did quite a few things wrong. First you failed to realise that as a 45 year-old with an expression that said 'I'm proud of my five abortions and one hundred cocks' every Mr. Right in your ambit had long scarpered, married to women much younger than you. I could have told you that, but would you have listened? Right now you'd be lucky to snag an elderly Kerry farmer. Then, with full knowledge of what you were doing you declared all-out war on Mother Nature - with predictable results. So whining 'why me?' only shows that you're representative of the prevailing 'go grrrrrl' attitude: Power without responsibility. In fact you're fully responsible for what's happened to you and now you face the future alone in a roomful of cats while your useless marketing career aimlessly plods along. Not exactly having it all, is it?
Well lady I can be of help here. In fact you did quite a few things wrong. First you failed to realise that as a 45 year-old with an expression that said 'I'm proud of my five abortions and one hundred cocks' every Mr. Right in your ambit had long scarpered, married to women much younger than you. I could have told you that, but would you have listened? Right now you'd be lucky to snag an elderly Kerry farmer. Then, with full knowledge of what you were doing you declared all-out war on Mother Nature - with predictable results. So whining 'why me?' only shows that you're representative of the prevailing 'go grrrrrl' attitude: Power without responsibility. In fact you're fully responsible for what's happened to you and now you face the future alone in a roomful of cats while your useless marketing career aimlessly plods along. Not exactly having it all, is it?
But here's another thing you did. Being a vocal and influential feminist you suckered thousands of other women into taking the disastrous course that you did. Do you feel guilty about that? Or are you so solipsistic that their fate never entered your mind? Let me remind you Brigitte - you can’t fight biology with ideology.
The gods of karmic justice are smiling grimly at your fate.